Life is a rollercoaster

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Unedited photos from Dempsey, what I had for lunch.

Met my old best friend today. We were chatting so much about the past, old school times.
How I’ve missed it.
The times where you had nothing to worry about.
Except flings, whether you’d flunk on exams, cutting classes & praying not to get caught, burning your school notes with fire after the papers…
Those were the times.
And most of the time we’d just ponder where to hang out after school, or to get a new hamster/rabbit as a pet.

It was good times.
And I’m glad to have met her today.
If I didn’t meet her, I guess I wouldn’t have been introduced to that company either.
Wouldn’t have met so many people, changed so much.
Much less wouldn’t have met you, J.

And when you look back,
You realise
How each encounter links up together
And brought you where you are today…

Something very meaningful

During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here’s the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO.

Change

The only thing that’s permanent in life is change.

I’m 21 years old.
What does 21 mean?
They say that when you’re 21, you become a adult.
Before 21, I didn’t understand.
But now I do.

This age to me, is not just a number.
It makes me reflect how far I’ve gone. What I learnt.
And where I want to go.

There are choices in life I wish I didn’t make.
There are also choices in life I wish I made.
Things I wish I could take back.
Things I wish I’ve said.
Things I did wrongly
Things I did right.
But upon reflecting,
I think that, if I had a chance to start all over
I would live my life the same way.

The ups and downs I’ve gone through
The achievements I had
The things I regretted
They all made me.
Life isn’t about always making the right choices
I guess in every thing that happens to us, be it good or bad
Is to teach us a lesson. To create who we are.
And shape our future.

Crossroads

Crossroads

I’m at the crossroads once again. 2013 marks a brand new start, a brand new year. And I have to decide, what I really really want. I will fight for a better future for myself and those I love.

Cloud Atlas

Our lives are not our own. We are bound to others, past and present. And by each crime and every kindness, we create our future.

Choices. 2013 means a brand new year, a new start. The beginning of change. Tomorrow I’ll be interviewing Sharp, for a sales executive position. Basic of $1k-$1.4k, with allowance of $900, for transportation and handphone reimbursement. If I’m driving, another $600. A total of $2,500 added onto whatever commissions I recieve. That’s option 1. Pros : A new working experience in something I’m strong in – sales. Allowance to drive my car. Cons : Unsure about environment and stress levels.

Option 2, is to continue studies while I open my online beauty store. Continue for a degree education in business and marketing. While I focus to build up my online business. Pros : More time to think about what I want and enjoy student life. Cons : Can’t provide for my family at the moment.

Option 3, stay put in my current line. In direct sales for medical products. Pros : Very experienced in this area, able to work with partner. Cons : Lack motivation and unsure of long term career here. Full commission based.

Which option?