Karma can be such a bitch

Do u believe in karma?
The law of cause and effect.

It’s true.
Whatever you do always comes back to you. It’s just a matter of time…

I’ve tried so hard in this relationship. Because of my mistakes in the past.
But in the end, I still got so badly hurt.

Is it really possible to start anew?
Can I put my trust and faith again.
Or should I start afresh and start over?

For once, I don’t have a clear answer.

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Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about knowing yourself

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Listening to ‘Try’ by Pink on the ride back.

I’m glad I picked up blogging again.
Blogging gives me the space to write and reflect.
To express thoughts. True, heartfelt thoughts.
And of course, getting likes from readers, they make my day.

Recently this thought came to me.

Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about knowing yourself.

Everyone’s searching for something. Finding life’s purpose, finding yourself.
Finding wealth, finding success.

What is success?
Success always seems to be equated to material things.
The car you drive, the number in your bank account.
But recently when I’ve been turning back and reflecting
I’ve realised many things.
Does driving a Lamborghini equate you being successful?
Does being a millionaire equate you are a success?
Or success is dependant on your personal ideal of success.

To me, success means
Being able to provide for my parents
Staying in a comfortable loving home
Having achievements I’ll be proud of
Writing my very own book
And impacting people’s lives, in a good way.
I don’t need a Ferrari or Porsche
I’m happy to drive a Toyota as long as I’m driving it with my family & loved ones.
If I am a millionaire,
But I became one by stepping on others to climb up
Am I rich at heart or only rich in wealth?

But if I was only somebody just above average,
Yet everyday I do deeds of kindness
Then maybe
I am rich.

The things that make me happy
Are not what money can buy
But what I can do and the people I can help with the money.

We can’t bring our money to the coffin
But we certainly can do good today.

It’s very different for me to blog something like that.
But in heart I really believe
And really hope
For more good in this world.

Today I bought a drink for someone I only met twice.
Without any motive, without asking for returns
And when she appreciated
My own drink tasted better than if I’ve had two drinks myself.

Sometimes life is the small things.

Spread the love ❤❤

Change

Change is the only thing that’s permanent in this world.
At the same time, we are fearful of change.

Many times, I hear people complaining about their lives.
Whether its their work, their partner, or situations that they are in.
When I hear those complaints, like most of us, I’ll always tell the person – if they don’t like where they are, change it.

But when it comes to myself, then I realise why people don’t want to change.
We fear the unknown, we fear the uncertainty. When we change a career or a partner or other situations, we’re not sure of the outcome. How it’ll turn out.

This quote gave me the strength to change my situation.
I guess in everything there’s always good and bad.
As much as I don’t see future in what I’m currently doing, I’ll miss the friends here, and the flexibility of my time again.

But this quote inspired me.

If you are like me, unsure of whether you have the courage to make a change in your life for the better.
Whether its an unsatisfactory job, an abusive boyfriend.
I hope this quote will help.

We cannot obtain what we lack if we tenaciously cling to what we have. We are able to consciously control our conditions as we come to sense the purpose of what we attract, and are able to extract from each experience only what we require for our further growth. Our ability to do this determines the degree of harmony or happiness we attain.”

Charles F. Haanel

Do leave your comments and thoughts 🙂

Indecision

If there’s anything more painful than deciding,
It’s not deciding.
It’s being neither here
Nor there.

When I decided to change career
I hoped for your support.
Why is it that you can only see things from your view?
Is this the you I knew, 3 years back…

I’m glad to have found this opportunity.
Really.
I feel that I will excel.
I don’t wish you to be happy for me.
But I thought minimally,
You’ll not blame me for my decision.

Have I done wrong?
For this past 4 years
I’ve done all that I could.
For this cause.

But it struck me, just last year December.
That I wasn’t going anywhere.
And I had to move on.

Will you understand?

Is this love anymore.

A new chapter

A new chapter

Sometimes if we want our life to change, We need to dare to take steps & decide. All my life I’ve lived my life Trying to please everyone. Now, I need to decide What works best for me in life.

Life is a rollercoaster

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Unedited photos from Dempsey, what I had for lunch.

Met my old best friend today. We were chatting so much about the past, old school times.
How I’ve missed it.
The times where you had nothing to worry about.
Except flings, whether you’d flunk on exams, cutting classes & praying not to get caught, burning your school notes with fire after the papers…
Those were the times.
And most of the time we’d just ponder where to hang out after school, or to get a new hamster/rabbit as a pet.

It was good times.
And I’m glad to have met her today.
If I didn’t meet her, I guess I wouldn’t have been introduced to that company either.
Wouldn’t have met so many people, changed so much.
Much less wouldn’t have met you, J.

And when you look back,
You realise
How each encounter links up together
And brought you where you are today…

Something very meaningful

During a seminar, a woman asked,” How do I know if I am with the right person?”

The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered “How do you know?” Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here’s the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.”Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a “decision”. Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO.

Change

The only thing that’s permanent in life is change.

I’m 21 years old.
What does 21 mean?
They say that when you’re 21, you become a adult.
Before 21, I didn’t understand.
But now I do.

This age to me, is not just a number.
It makes me reflect how far I’ve gone. What I learnt.
And where I want to go.

There are choices in life I wish I didn’t make.
There are also choices in life I wish I made.
Things I wish I could take back.
Things I wish I’ve said.
Things I did wrongly
Things I did right.
But upon reflecting,
I think that, if I had a chance to start all over
I would live my life the same way.

The ups and downs I’ve gone through
The achievements I had
The things I regretted
They all made me.
Life isn’t about always making the right choices
I guess in every thing that happens to us, be it good or bad
Is to teach us a lesson. To create who we are.
And shape our future.